The whole world is attending my wedding!Posted: August 20, 2013
Pardon my liberal use of the word “also” — I wasn’t thinking, I was seething. And trying not to sound rude.
The parents have started verbally inviting people to the wedding, and recently while we were out Eid visiting, Dad invited a friend who was on the agreed guestlist, but then without any remorse whatsoever, proceeded to invite the said friend’s mother and sister as well!
Our guestlist has to date gone through numerous rounds of changes and I thought with the latest version we had finally come to an agreement. WELL, I THOUGHT WRONG!
Yesterday when we sat down to look at the guestlist to calculate how many cards he’d need, he added back the guests that we previously agreed to take off from the list!
I’m just SO, VERY FRUSTRATED because:
- Our venue is small. (Yes, we finally have a replacement venue — will blog about it soon.)
- It’s a combined wedding — we simply have to stick to our quota because otherwise it will be unfair to Faz’s family.
- We’re only about 2 months away from the wedding and the numbers keep changing.
- Cost is going to increase. Although he’s the one paying for the food, it doesn’t mean I’m not concerned about how much he’s going to have to fork out.
I don’t get why he must insist on inviting people he hasn’t seen in yonks. I REALLY DON’T!!!!
He keeps insisting that everything will work out fine. If you know you’re not taking the correct path to your destination, HOW CAN YOU EXPECT TO ARRIVE AT YOUR DESTINATION?! IT DOESN’T MAKE SENSE!
I really don’t want to see guests having to stand around waiting for seats on the day. It’ll reflect poorly on our planning and more importantly, it will affect our guests’ entire experience of being at our wedding. It doesn’t matter if TWC does spectacular decor, or how gorgeous FM’s outfits are, people won’t appreciate any of that if they have to spend the entire time standing around pissed, waiting for a seat! I might as well go throw my money down the drain.
He hasn’t seen the figures yet. I’m gathering them and will present it to him as a last ditch attempt to deter him from inviting more people. Mind you, prior to this my parents have already allocated some guests to the nikah event on Friday because they have too many friends, and these additions I’m talking about is on top of that! I’ve decided that I am not going to pay for any cost that comes out of this extra headcount — this includes wedding favours and cards. And if that doesn’t work…..well, it’s your money, not mine. I already did what I could to help you save that money so that you could perhaps use on a rainy day, or treat my mom to something, go on a holdiday, whatever — but you wouldn’t listen!