Building a mosque in a mosquePosted: May 1, 2013
Before I get into the story about our nikah venue, there is one very important change in plans.
Instead of going through the whole shebang in one day on Saturday, 26th October 2013, we’ve decided to split the nikah and sanding into two days. So the plan now is to nikah the evening before — on Friday, 25th October 2013 after Isya’ — and then sanding the next day.
So whatever number on the ticker you see now on the sidebar, you have to -1! =O
I am ashamed to admit we were driven to make this decision by a very vain and frivolous reason (please don’t laugh): we thought our photos would look so much more colourful and varied if our wedding would be split into two days and guests would be wearing different outfits! #facepalm
Initially we thought we’d rather just get over the tiredness of getting married in one day, but after mulling over it, splitting it into two days does seem like a better idea because apart from the reason stated above, we’ll also have a bit more breathing space. We won’t have to rush, and we can soak up the most important day of our lives to-date. And when someone asks, we’ll be able to recount every moment, instead of saying it was all just a blur.
Now, I’ve had this one dilemma ever since we embarked on this journey, and that is where to hold our nikah ceremony: at the mosque, or at home.
I’ve always wanted to get married in a mosque, but more particularly the mosque my family used to frequent when we were growing up, before life demanded more of our time. But the issue was that my parents know a lot of people there — some of whom they may or may not be close with anymore, since it’s been a while since our last visit. To hold my nikah there and not invite them to the wedding wouldn’t be very nice, y’know what I mean?
The reason why it’s regretfully not possible to invite all of them is because the wedding is a combined event. Faz and I have agreed to stick to our quotas, so it wouldn’t be fair if I were to increase the number of guests on my side. And let’s not forget our venue isn’t that big.
So as a result it was agreed that we should just nikah at home. But as the day draws nearer, the thought of having to spring-clean the entire house seemed more and more unbearable. I’ve got so many other things to do. My family members are also busy with their own lives — I didn’t want to burden them with something so time and energy consuming.
After much discussion with my parents, we finally came to a compromise. We’ve decided to go ahead and nikah at the mosque, and my parents will get to invite their friends from the mosque, but only to the nikah reception on Friday. To top it off, they will be paying for their guests as well. Everyone wins!
I’m so stoked because:
- No need to get all beat up about cleaning the house.
It has been tried and tested that even a week’s leave from work isn’t enough to get the house ready in time for Eid. So by getting solemnised at the mosque, we don’t have to spend so much time on the house. The time could be better spent doing my DIY projects for the wedding.
- No cramming 100 people in the house.
Which ultimately means more comfort! My house is not air-conditioned, so everyone will suffer from the heat.
- Relatives and friends will go home after the nikah and dinner at the mosque.
As opposed to having it at home and them hanging around till late, that is. And no need to clean up after they’ve left! Don’t get me wrong, it’s not that they’re not welcome, but I would think my whole family needs the sleep to recharge for the next day. Just so you know, I take my sleep very seriously!
- No need to set up an in-house mini dais.
I was planning on engaging Kasai Sayang for a mini dais if we were to nikah at home. Last I enquired, this would cost me $450. For usage of the mosque prayer hall for two hours, it’s only $180. $270 saved there!
Last weekend my parents and I brought Faz for a tour around the mosque and he was agreeable to having our nikah done there. Poor guy got the jitters looking at the prayer hall — the very spot he’ll be sitting in in 178 days!